Your words have power. They can create or destroy. They can create energetic fields which can enliven or imprison.
It is important to not cast your words about carelessly. Especially in times of high emotion. Those words set the foundation for the next stage, the next generation. We can’t learn from our mistakes if we keep setting the stage for conflict and failure with poorly chosen words and an inability to take back the words that are hurtful or unhelpful.
I was raised with a saying “if you can’t say something nice, say nothing at all”…and unfortunately, the way that manifested in me was an unhealthy relationship with my self esteem and disconnection from my power as a sovereign and sacred part of humanity. Age and wisdom have helped me figure out how to embody that phrase.
Saying nothing means waiting. Not going silent. Saying something nice means, really, saying something with the intent of being helpful. Wait to speak, until you understand the true nature of the problem/subject matter/conflict, and then say something helpful.
I am still learning to embody that wisdom. It’s so easy to just spout off. But age and wisdom are good teachers and I have great respect for good teachers.